Little White Lies

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Little white lies.

Big unsaid truths.

Smoothing it over by telling someone what they want to hear.

Avoid confrontation at all costs so you won’t be rejected.

We rarely do these things because we don’t like someone, in fact, we do them the most for those we love.

Little white lies can slowly become the language of our relationships as well as we try to protect our most tender selves.

15 “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. ” Ephesians 4:15 NIV

“Liars hate their victims; flatterers sabotage trust.”  ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭26:28‬ ‭MSG‬‬

Words are powerful and all deception, whether it is big or small, deteriorates relationships.

It doesn’t matter if it is a negative slur or positive flattery.

If the words you are speaking are not true, you are not really loving who you are speaking to. Deceptive words will cause ruin whether you want them to or not.

If you love someone, tell them the truth. It doesn’t have to be brutal or mean, but it does need to be spoken.

This isn’t a challenge to suddenly verbally vomit all your pent up, stuffed down and swallowed words on the ones you love. This is a loving reminder to examine your words and the state of your heart.

I want to encourage you to ask God to show you why you are stuffing, swallowing, avoiding and not speaking the truth.

Can I tell you the truth?  With all the love I have in my heart hear this: it probably has more to do with how you see yourself than how you see others.

When you discover why you are lying and unintentionally ruining your relationships, you will uncover a place that God wants to heal.

Jesus will give you the courage to boldly look at your underlying motives and begin to speak the truth in love.

Speak the truth in love.

Face the fear of being misunderstood.

Ask God to begin to heal the broken parts in you so that you can have healthy relationships with those around you. 

What You Don’t Need

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You don’t need more stuff.

More things will not bring satisfaction or peace.

More stuff will not make your relationships better.

Dealing with the daily conflicts that happen in your relationships will make your relationships better.

“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.”
Proverbs‬ ‭17:1‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Peace never comes by ignoring the conflict but only through dealing with it.

Don’t stuff your feelings, deal with them.

Push through the uncomfortable space of it.

Be brave and talk.

Speak the truth in love.

You can’t do it on your own – you need God.

The peace that will permeate in your home is the peace starts with you and God.

Get your heart right with God then deal with the hearts of those you love and live with.

Do the hard work of communicating all the way through so that you can enjoy the blessed moments of life when you are at peace with God and at peace with others.

You don’t need a luxurious environment to possess luxurious love.

Don’t be passive with love and don’t look to possessions to solve your problems for you.

Look to Jesus to give you what you need today to break through and possess peace in your most important relationships – those in your home.

Right In Front of You

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One of my favorite moments documented in Jesus’ life is in Mark 10:22.

”Jesus looked at him and loved him.”

Jesus saw the man who was right in front of him and loved him Before the man obeyed or disobeyed – Jesus loved him for who he was right at that moment regardless of the outcome of their relationship.

That is how God loves.

Jesus loves you that way and He wants to love others that way.

My friend, you are not where you are by mistake.

You are loved by the God who created you and wrapped you in His amazing embrace.

There are things that only you can do.

There are people in your life that only you can love and touch today.

The circle of your influence begins at your fingertips – those within your grasp today.

You are where you are for a reason that has more to do with who you are here to love than what you are here to accomplish.

Who has God put right in front of you today?

How are you going to love them?

People Need You

And you need people.
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You are created to be in relationships.

However, relationships are not easy and because of humans, they are endlessly complicated.

They take grace, forgiveness, honesty, and courage.
You may think that it would be easier and simpler to withdraw altogether but God created you to be connected.
Don’t cheat yourself or others by withdrawing in fear.
Persevere.
Quiet the fear-filled beat of your heart and listen for the encouraging whisper of the Holy Spirit.
God can make a way where there seems to be no way.
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had,”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭15:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Be brave and reach out today.

Keep a Firm Grip

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“Let’s keep a firm grip on the promises that keep us going. He always keeps his word.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭10:23 ‭MSG

What promise is keeping you going right now?

For me, it is this one:

“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1:6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

It reminds me that even though it is my life, what He does through me is His work. It is His work that He started, His work to continue, His work to complete.

It is a reminder that it is not my work that completes me but His.

It encourages me to keep my focus on the relationship I have with Him because that is my work.

What a great job description: grow my relationship with God and let Him grow me.

What promise keeps you going?

What word are you holding on to right now?

Jesus is able and faithful to keep His promises to you.

Hold Him with a firm grip and don’t let go.

Faith is a Verb

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Faith is not a feeling.

Faith is a  choice.  It is a choice to believe something that leads to doing something. 

This is the year to do the thing that faith is prompting and fear is resisting.

To trust God with the impossible.

To put actions to your words.

Dear friends, do you think you’ll get anywhere in this if you learn all the right words but never do anything?”

James 2:14 NLT

If God is asking you to do it, He has already given what you need for it.

He has already equipped you for it.

“Faith is taking the first step before you know what the second step is.”

– Joyce Meyers

God is bigger than your fear and has a purpose for your faith.

He needs you to be who He has called you to be and do what He has asked you to do.

It isn’t about you, it is about who your obedience will impact.

It is time to put your faith into action.

What is God challenging you to do this year?

Adoration

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“Oh come let us adore him,
Oh come let us adore him,
Oh come let us adore him,
Christ the Lord.”
Adoration.
It is a beautiful moment found, experienced and breathed in.
It is being reinvigorated by an authentic connection.
It is a remembering of the first time you adored Him. Remembering the moment that your relationship to Christ changed from knowing of Him to knowing Him.
Knowing Jesus is real, that He loves you with love’s unconditional voice, not just once but every day.
Not just in some things, but in all things.
My friend, that which began in a manger continues in our hearts today- Emmanuel, God with us.
It’s not business, it’s personal.
May you experience a moment during the craziness of this season that helps you remember that Christmas is more than a tradition but a worldwide celebration of new life in Christ, starting with yours.