What You Don’t Need

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You don’t need more stuff.

More things will not bring satisfaction or peace.

More stuff will not make your relationships better.

Dealing with the daily conflicts that happen in your relationships will make your relationships better.

“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.”
Proverbs‬ ‭17:1‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Peace never comes by ignoring the conflict but only through dealing with it.

Don’t stuff your feelings, deal with them.

Push through the uncomfortable space of it.

Be brave and talk.

Speak the truth in love.

You can’t do it on your own – you need God.

The peace that will permeate in your home is the peace starts with you and God.

Get your heart right with God then deal with the hearts of those you love and live with.

Do the hard work of communicating all the way through so that you can enjoy the blessed moments of life when you are at peace with God and at peace with others.

You don’t need a luxurious environment to possess luxurious love.

Don’t be passive with love and don’t look to possessions to solve your problems for you.

Look to Jesus to give you what you need today to break through and possess peace in your most important relationships – those in your home.

Change Your Mind

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Repent is an old word that we don’t use much anymore but the concept behind it is one we do all the time – we change our mind. And when we change our mind, we change the direction of our lives.
Right in the middle of the busiest season of the year, I want to remind you that the most powerful thing you can do right now is rest and repent.
Rest in God’s grace.
Repent of self-effort.
Rest from perfect image making.
The kind of rest God has for you is a deep down rest that knows and is confident that God will fulfill His Word in you.
It is a confidence not born of flesh or work but from the Spirit and grace.
It is a trust that is so sure that a quietness envelopes your soul.
You can rest in the midst of conflict.
You can be quiet in the midst of chaos.
This kind of rest doesn’t come from removing all strife from your life, it comes from being obedient in the midst of it.
It comes from making hard choices and trusting God’s way instead of your own.
“In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭30:15‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Repentance is about realizing that all your dizzying efforts to make your life happen your way will only cause you strife, fear, and pain.
Rest is about realizing that you are loved completely by a Savior who sacrificed Himself for you so that you can be empowered to live the life He created you for.
What do you need to change your mind about today?
How are you going to rest in God’s grace today? 

Deal With It

“Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting—and conflict.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Peace is not ignoring conflict nor is it giving into something wrong in order to solve it.

Peace comes from facing it and dealing all the way through it.

Today I want to challenge you to deal with it.

To push through the uncomfortable space of it.

To be brave and talk.

To speak the truth in love.

To start with you first.

Real peace starts with you and God. Get your heart right with God before you deal with the hearts of those you love and live with.

And then deal with it.

Do the hard work of communicating all the way through so that you can enjoy the blessed moments of life when you are at peace with God and at peace with others.

You don’t need a luxurious environment to posses luxurious love.

You need courage and compassion.

Look to Jesus to give you the courage to to deal with the conflict in front of you and the compassion to generously love the people involved.

God Is Not Done


God is not done with you.

“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1:6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

God will not abandon your character to chance or sacrifice your growth to unforeseen circumstances.

He knows where you are and what you are facing.

In fact, He will use the very conflict you are asking to get out of to grow you into the person He created you to be.

Hold on.

God is not done with you.

In fact, He has only just begun.

Possessing Peace

  

Don’t be deceived into believing that more things will make you happy.

Don’t be duped into thinking that more stuff will make your relationships better.

“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.”
Proverbs‬ ‭17:1‬ ‭NIV‬‬

This is not encouragement to stuff your feelings and not deal with conflict, within or without.

This is a reminder to deal with the conflict. 

To push through the uncomfortable space of it.

To be brave and talk. 

To speak the truth in love. 

Peace never comes by ignoring the conflict but only throuh dealing with it. 

More than that, peace starts with you and God. Get your heart right with God before you deal with the hearts of those you love and live with. 

And then deal with it.

Do the hard work of communicating all the way through so that you can enjoy the blessed moments of life when you are at peace with God and at peace with others. 

You don’t need a luxurious environment to posses luxurious love. 

Don’t be passive with love and don’t look to possessions to solve your problems for you. 

Look to Jesus to give you what you need today to break through and possess peace in your most important realtionshops – those in your home.

Be Courageous

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Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong. Do everything in love. (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭16‬:‭13-14‬ NIV)

The best guidance for facing conflict and having a crucial conversation is:

Be wise.

Know who you are in Christ.

Face reality without backing down.

Be fierce about fighting for the relationship.

Do everything in love.

What If They Are?

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I love this proverb. It brings a smile to my face every time I see it and reminds me that I don’t need to spend time or energy focusing on drama that I have nothing to do with.

But what if it is my circus and they are definitely my monkeys?

I am implored by God to deal with it.

Paul the apostle had to deal with lots of drama in the beginning years of the birth of the Church (and so have Pastors and leaders ever since).

In fact, being a leader (especially in your own life) means you deal with conflict- that is your job.

This is what Paul tells the church in Corinth:

“But I will come to you very soon, if the Lord is willing, and then I will find out not only how these arrogant people are talking, but what power they have.
For the kingdom of God is not a matter of talk but of power.
What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a rod of discipline, or shall I come in love and with a gentle spirit? (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭4‬:‭19-21‬ NIV)

If your monkeys are pulling out your hair, you need to stop them and tell them that it is not okay to do that.

You teach what you allow.

Don’t deny it.
Don’t enable it.
Deal with it (with God).

Embrace your circus and your monkeys.

God has given them to you.

He sees what is happening and will give you what you need to do what needs to be done.