Deal With It

“Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting—and conflict.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Peace is not ignoring conflict nor is it giving into something wrong in order to solve it.

Peace comes from facing it and dealing all the way through it.

Today I want to challenge you to deal with it.

To push through the uncomfortable space of it.

To be brave and talk.

To speak the truth in love.

To start with you first.

Real peace starts with you and God. Get your heart right with God before you deal with the hearts of those you love and live with.

And then deal with it.

Do the hard work of communicating all the way through so that you can enjoy the blessed moments of life when you are at peace with God and at peace with others.

You don’t need a luxurious environment to posses luxurious love.

You need courage and compassion.

Look to Jesus to give you the courage to to deal with the conflict in front of you and the compassion to generously love the people involved.

A New Way to Live 


Your nature.
Your upbringing. 
Your personality.
Your past experience. 

The above determines how you interact with your world and the people in it. It is what you learn as you grow up and fall back on when you are tired. It is how you live.
In Jesus, you have been equipped to interact with your world in a new way. You have a new way to love them.

One that is not based on your nature but on God’s, not based on your upbringing but on God’s out pouring. 

No matter who you are or where you come from, in Christ, you get to learn how to love God’s way. The way He originally created you to live. The way Jesus loves you. 

It isn’t about habit building. 

It is about habit surrendering and God embracing. 

“So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. 
‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:12 MSG

Compassion – moved to action from a heart that is stired with passion to reach out and love someone who could never repay you and has nothing to that would benefit you. This is how Jesus loves you. 

Kindness – a way of life that sees others with eyes that see past the superficial and hands that reach out  regardless of worthiness or an expectation of repercussion. This is how Jesus loves you. 

Humility– knowing your worth and not making it the requirement for someone else to know it before you will love them. This is how Jesus loves you. 

Quiet Strength, Discipline – the kind of strength that gets up when it is tired, does the right thing when it doesn’t feel like it, holds on when it wants to let go, pushes through when it would be easier to just stop. The kind of strength that isn’t pretty, it is sturdy. It has scars. It doesn’t stop.

This is how Jesus loves you. 
This is your new way to live.

Quiet Your Mind


It is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord. (‭Lamentations‬ ‭3‬:‭26‬ NIV)

It is good to wait quietly for God to work.

Stop wondering, worrying, analyzing and overthinking where you are or where you think you should be.

Hush the thoughts that incessantly make you anxious.

“Take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭10‬:‭5‬ NIV)

Quiet your mind.

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness”. (‭Lamentations‬ ‭3‬:‭22-23‬ NIV)

God knows what is going on. He knows what will happen. He loves you.

New mercies are coming your way.


Every day you get to chose which life you are going to live in: an old life of self centered obsession or a new life of love in Christ. Both are readily available to you every day. Both are initiated by focus.

What you focus on determines your perspective.

When you focus on what you need , what you deserve, what you should have, a self centered perspective dictates how you see your world and how it fails to meet your needs.

When you focus on Christ first, His grace, His gifts, His love, your perspective shifts to see the world around more clearly. You begin to see what others need, who needs grace and who needs support.

When you look to God to get what you need instead of expecting others to fill them, you are free. Free to grow, free to give, free to pursue your purpose instead of chasing after the empty pursuit of getting acceptance.

“So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline.

Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense.

Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.” (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭12-14‬ MSG)

You have been chosen by God to live a life of freedom and purpose. Choose to walk in it by putting on what God has already given you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength and discipline.

Put Some Clothes On

Some spiritual clothes, I mean, the kind your attitude lives in.

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭12‬ NIV)

I am sure when you got up this morning that you put clothes on. You most likely looked at the weather and maybe grabbed a light coat on your way out.

Everyday you also get the to chose your attitude.

God has provided the ultimate attitude closest stocked with the best quality virtues made of the finest character fabrics. It has the words “chosen” and “dearly loved” on the doors. It has been provided for you to plunder.

In it, you will find every attitude you might need today: practical compassion, unqualified kindness, humble service, undeserved gentleness and supernatural patience.

You are going to need it. It is there for you to take, put on and live in all day long.

Getting dressed in the morning doesn’t happen by accident. Neither does walking in a godly attitude.

It happens on purpose.

Choose this day the attitude you will put on and live in.

New Wardrobe

God’s plan is transform your life.

He wants to do such a redeeming work in you that nothing from your old life fits anymore. Not your old habits, old coping mechanisms, old go-to reactions or even old self talk.

He doesn’t want to simply give you a few new skills to slap onto old habits, or new ideas to add onto your old ones.

He wants to change your life- all of it.

He wants to change how you see it, how you treat it and how you deal with it. He wants to change you from the inside out.

Jesus hasn’t paid such a high price to redeem you to God so that he could “patch up” your life, but so he could give you a brand new one.

He told them this parable: “No one tears a piece out of a new garment to patch an old one. Otherwise, they will have torn the new garment, and the patch from the new will not match the old. (Luke 5:36 NIV)

He wants to help you “clean out your closet” and then give you the keys to a brand new wardrobe- his.

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. (Colossians 3:12 NIV)

You must dress yourself everyday. You take responsibility for it…but instead of going back into your old closet, head into God’s. What does he have for you to wear?

It’s not about trying harder. It is about asking for help. Let God choose what you wear, inside and out. He is your best life advisor.


Keep It Simple

Keep it simple, my friend. This is the great challenge, isn’t it? To uncomplicate our lives, our minds, our hearts. To keep it simple, focused, on purpose.

Today, it is more important:

• how you treat people than how much you get done.

• that your decisions are founded on love and loyalty rather than on money and time.

• that you obey God rather than over-analyze yourself, the situation, and the what if”s. Just do it.

• that you spend time worshiping rather than worrying.

“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.
And what does the Lord require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy
and to walk humbly with your God.”

(Micah 6:8 NIV)

When I am tired and drained, which I am this morning, it is so easy to let frustration over take my perspective. I love how the Word of God reminds what is important and to keep it simple. This is what God requires of you ( and me) today.

Have a blessed day and take a moment to shout out a hello by leaving a comment. Even when it is a smiley face, it blessing me to know it has blessed you!