Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a choice to let God have it, hold it, and be responsible for it– whatever it is.
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”
Colossians 3:13 NLT
Forgiveness is taking the power away from them and giving it back to God.
You don’t have to trust them to forgive them.
Forgiveness is not about restoring trust in them, it is about trusting God with your heart.
They don’t have to be sorry in order for you to forgive them. They don’t even have to know that you have released them to God.
What you do have to do is make the choice today and every day after, then continue to make the choice until the feeling lines up with the decision.
And it will.
One day you will be able to remember what happened without reliving the pain.
“When we forgive an offense, we set a prisoner free, only to discover that we were that prisoner”.
– Freedom Groups, Week 7