Self- interest complicates it. It is difficult to “simply love” others when your innate human desire to self- protect kicks in.
It is easier to go with the flow of human nature and begin to hedge your bets and build cases of reasons to disconnect.
Going down that road, you will find yourself isolated and self-righteous instead of connected and invested.
“The whole point of what we’re urging is simply love —love uncontaminated by self-interest and counterfeit faith, a life open to God.
Those who fail to keep to this point soon wander off into cul-de-sacs of gossip. They set themselves up as experts on religious issues, but haven’t the remotest idea of what they’re holding forth with such imposing eloquence”. (1 Timothy 1:5-7 MSG)
You can’t do this on your own and you can’t do it without God.
Because of the Cross, you can simply love.
With Christ, in Christ, by Christ.
A life open to God means that you recognize when human nature high jacks the work God wants to do through you.
Sin complicates it.
The Cross simplifies it.
The only way to deal with your human nature is to take it to the Cross.
Lay down your nature and take up Christ’s.
Then with Christ and in Christ, be set free (mostly from yourself) to love those who God has brought to you.
They need it as much as you do.