Little white lies.
Small unsaid things.
Smoothing it over by telling them what they want to hear.
Avoid confrontation at all costs so you won’t be rejected.
We rarely do these things because we don’t like someone, we do them the most with those we care for the most.
It becomes the language of our relationships and the protection of our most tender selves.
“A lying tongue hates its victims, and flattering words cause ruin”. (Proverbs 26:28 NLT)
That verse changes things, doesn’t it?
To God- all deception, whether it is big or small, deteriorates relationships. It doesn’t matter if it is a negative slur or a positive flattery.
If the words you are speaking are not true, you are not loving them.
Your deceptive words are causing ruin whether you want them to or not.
If you love someone, tell them the truth. It doesn’t have to be brutal but it does need to be spoken.
This isn’t a challenge to suddenly verbally vomit all your pent up, stuffed down and swallowed words on the ones you love.
The challenge is to examine your words and your heart.
The challenge is to ask God to show you why you are stuffing, swallowing, avoiding and not speaking the truth.
And it probably has more to do with how you see yourself than how you see others.
When you discover why you are lying and unintentionally ruining your relationships, you will uncover a place that God wants to heal.
Trusting God means having the courage to boldly look at your underlying motives and bravely begin to create new speech patterns with the ones you love.
Speak the truth in love.
Face the fear of being misunderstood.
Ask God to heal the broken parts in you so that you can have healthy relationships with those around you.